I have a problem. I can't say no. I seriously have an issue with telling people "no I can't help you" or "no I aint got it." It's like a never ending cycle.
Someone asks me for something or to do something
I know I don't want to do it or don't have it
I respond, let me see what I can do...
I then do the very thing I didn't want to do in the first place
Why?
Acceptance or Happiness. See my problem is, I want to do unto others as I would like to have them do unto me. SADLY, the world doesn't work that way. If I had 50% of 50% of what other people owe me I could probably retire in the islands. If I had the support from others that I give I would probably be God knows where by now. (Of course in the grand scheme of life I'm exactly where God wants me... but that's another blog for another day)
I'm learning that it's perfectly ok to be and make selfish decisions at times. If not I'll have nothing to offer anyone else but resentment.
I think I'm going to take today to say no... just because I can (or can't - depends on how you look at it). If it makes someone mad b/c I wont give them my last dime or slither of energy I don't need them around anyway. I hope everyone I started with today will still be around by the time the day is over.
Great Day People!
Signed,
I said HELL no
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- LNA
- A self professed “Grace Case,” Elle is a 29 year old accomplished writer. Having written and been featured in national magazines such as Essence, her unique writing style has been said to be “thought provoking” and “more emotional than most.” She believes in being an open book and through that prays that her life experiences help others avoid the mistakes she’s made and overcome. As such, her memoir “Loving Me In Spite of Me” is filled with life lessons and coping mechanisms. Her mantra “love me or hate me… I’m me unapologetically” has helped define her writing style.
Good for you. Sometimes saying no is required for your health.
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