Losing Faith

I seriously think I'm starting to lose faith in the 'institution' of marriage. In the past two days I've had one friend tell me her husband has profiles on all these adults sites and ads for erotic services and then yet another tell me her husband has been communicating with an ex who 'he shouldn't have did wrong and let go' on MySpace. I'm beginning to think people get married b/c it's the thing to do after you've dated for awhile. No one respects it anymore and it saddens me. It's almost as if I need to constantly look around for that boulder called 'cheating' or the asteroid named 'divorce' because it's inevitable. *sigh* Why can't men and women be mature enough to tell the person they say they love when something isn't right? I mean I know there are cases when they say something and the other person either pretends they don't hear or acts like they don't understand. Does it condone what most people do? No...I'm just so frustrated with the world. I'm not saying I'm a saint by any means but I just want to know when this cycle will be broken? This is not what God intended to happen when he created marriage but then again a lot of us are married knowing full well it wasn't an 'act of God' to begin with.

You know...the bad thing is a lot of these men and women don't think there's anything wrong with what they are doing. It's either she/he'll never know...or this is harmless. My friend told me that he said the only reason he was in touch with her is b/c he 'hurt her...' and 'she was there before you were' and 'I missed out on a good thing.' Now I don't know about you but that sounds to me like...I was really in love with her but I was dumb and let her go. You came along and made me forget who she was and I married you not thinking that she would resurface. Now I' married to you but I'll always wonder if what we had would have worked. I could be wrong...but that's a guess. If someone were to tell me that, I'd be beyond hurt...not b/c there was someone before me, but b/c he settled for me, you know? No one wants to feel like that. I hate b/c there's nothing I can really say to make her confident in her marriage again...hell I don't want to be in the midst of the problem anyway, but then again...what are friends for? I can't pretend like she doesn't need me, right? I spoke to her this morning when I got in and she sounded as if she was ready to give up and let him pursue his ex...she said if the feelings were still there even though he denies the fact then she needed to step aside and hopefully he'd see one of two things...either how good he had it or how good he had it (get it? :) ). As for the other friend (w/ the husband living another life on the Internet and in other cities) I didn't respond to her e-mail b/c I really didn't know what to say...I mean I want to say, go get a check up STAT! but I don't want to open a can of worms. I want to say my opinion but I've learned my lesson from getting involved in other folks' mess...especially relationships.

I do know...that now I'm on high alert...not b/c I don't trust the man I married...but Satan is BUSY. Married people, keep the communication lines OPEN at all times so that we can try and combat the attack on marriages. In the end it's all we have...*sigh*

G'Day Folks

Lady Doss