Ok so I know I will probably get burned at the stake for even thinking this but...*drum roll* who made the rule that men had to be the one's to practice chivalry...first let me say that I do know where chivalry originated and why it came to exist HOWEVER since this is such a 'progressive' world and all why can't chivalry and equality go hand in hand? This morning on the train I watched my husband offer at least 5 women his seat and it made me think, 'hmm if a woman was sitting down and a man got on the train obviously tired from a long day at work would she offer him her seat?' I came up with a big resounding HELL NO. On the other hand how would that man be perceived if he took it? Less than a man? a punk? It's something to really think about. Another thing that irks me is why do some females (notice some..that's the operative word here) have this huge sense of entitlement. It's almost as if they think "I have a cooTchie so you owe me." I can't understand it for the life of me. Why do men have to give you their seat, open your door, pay for your meal, and let you walk in front of them all b/c you have breasts? Seriously. I, for one, have no problem with paying for my man's meal (well we're married so we really don't count anymore, lol), holding the door for him sometimes, and letting him walk in front of me (I actually prefer he do that anyway). The double standard pops in when you have women who will set stuff straight on fire for women's rights and turn around in the same breath and say that 'he better open the car door for me'...OPEN IT YOURSELF YOU LIBERATED HEFFA! The woman who get on the train with an attitude b/c men wont 'get up and give me a damn seat' are probably the same women who wont get up off the couch and cook a brother a hot meal...(I'm not saying that a woman's job is to cook...I'm saying don't expect something you wont give in return.) Sorry for the vent...but this is just a concept I can't quite grasp. You open a door for me I open a door for you. You pay for breakfast, I got you for lunch. You tired and I'm not...have a seat. Maybe it's just me. Sound off people! Lady Doss
I feel where you coming from somewhat. I think in general if someone has home-training, then they are going go exhibit those "chivalrous" behaviors, because that's just good manners. If a young lady is simply allowed the man to do everything, then that should be a red flag to him. At the same time, a young man that does not exhibit those behaviors should as be a red flag to young women.
ReplyDeleteGrowing up my father taught my brother's chilvary, and he taught my sister and I that we should expect that behavior, and also how to appreciate and reciprocate that behavior. Folks in general haven't been taught those things, and that's where the disconnect is.
Good post as usual.
Burned at the stake? You should be put on a platform and given a medal! This is so true. Only thing I didnt agree on was all women having breasts, but other than that 100% head nodding lol.
ReplyDeleteI think it should be more about common courtesy. Who ever gets to the door first should either let the other go through or hold it open. It's also not something to be expected, but when it's done it should be duly noted.